Boyfriend’s rich friend tempting me

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 and I have a boyfriend. He is everything to me. I can't do without him but he has a friend who told me that he loves me and he is going to take me away from my boyfriend.

I told my boyfriend who said that his friend was talking foolishness. The only problem I am having is that my boyfriend doesn't have as much money as this other guy. So, every time the guy sees me, he waves money in my face. I am tempted to do something with him because my boyfriend does not have as much money to give to me and I have plenty of bills to take care of.

I am attending school and my boyfriend takes care of my fees. He also helps me with food because my mother is not doing well, so she cannot work very hard. I have not yet gone to bed with this other guy, but I am thinking about it. It is hard to resist him. He drives a very nice car and lives in a very good area in the hills. He took me to his place and showed me around and the only reason I did not go to bed with him was because I was seeing my period. He did not believe me when I told him that. I had to pull my pants down and show him. I have not gone back to his place, because I know what he wants.

I was invited to a wedding and I got everything to wear, except a pair of shoes which cost $25,000. I told my boyfriend that I needed the shoes and he said I did not need a new pair of shoes to go to a wedding. I told him that I didn't want the other girls to look better than me. He did not help me to buy the shoes. The only problem I am having with my boyfriend is that he is not earning a lot of money, so he can't give me anything very special.

My boyfriend has a son who he supports very well. He got that child when he was 17 and, when I met him, he admitted that the child's mother was one of his teachers. The child was registered in his mother's maiden name. He is very bright. My boyfriend wears a beard and he told me he started doing that early to look more mature.

I told this man who is after me to become my lover that he could not be my boyfriend's friend while insisting that he and I should be lovers. He told me that a man must get what he wants. I am trying to keep away from him, but sometimes I call him. Tell me what to do.

B.

Dear B.,

You should learn to be satisfied with what your boyfriend gives you. You know this other man doesn't have good morals, because a man with good morals wouldn't insist that he wants to sleep with his friend's woman.

A good man would protect his friend's girlfriend or wife. This man knows that your boyfriend does not have much money and that he earns much more than him. So he is trying to tempt you by offering you money to go to bed with him. You seem to be leaning towards going to bed with him.

You say that this man took you to where he lives in the hills and the only reason why you did not have sex with him was because you were on your period. He was not even willing to take your word for it; you had to loosen your pants to show him that you were indeed seeing your menses. If you were wise, you would have said to yourself, "That's enough. This man has gone too far."

You must have a higher standard in life. If your relationship means anything to you at all, you would stop talking to this man; you wouldn't call him, and you should block his number from your phone.

Pastor