My fiancé slept with more than two dozen women

Dear Pastor  

I am 27 years old and I am now dating a man who is 30. I love this man very much. Both of us are now attending a church. He has told me that he used to have many girlfriends. I asked him what he meant by many, and he said if he should take time to count, it would be about 26 women that he has had sex with, and he did not always use protection. 

I have only had three men that I have gone to bed with and my relationships with two of them were long. One guy and I stayed together for four years and the other three. 

I suggested to my boyfriend that both of us should go to the doctor to satisfy ourselves that we have not contracted any STD. He said by now, he would have known if he has any STD, and I would have known also. 

We have been having sex, but we have never had unprotected sex. We are talking about getting married. I know that marrying a man who has had so many women can be very risky. Would you agree? 

Neither of us have any children and I am happy about that. I really don’t want another man in my life. I cannot discuss this with everybody. I am writing to you because I know you will guide us the proper way. We would like to get married by the end of the year. So, would you kindly answer this letter and help us to make the right decisions. 

Thank you very much for reading this letter. 

L

Dear L.,

Thank you for expressing confidence in me. I am glad that you and this young man have found love and that both of you want to get married very soon. 

This young man has played around with many women; he told you that it could be about 26 of them. That may sound very high, but to some men it is not a lot.   

But whether the number is large or small, you have made a good suggestion to him. Both of you should indeed go to the doctor who may suggest certain tests be done. It could give both of you peace of mind and allow you to enter the marriage with clean slates, so to speak. 

I wish both of you well.   

Pastor